Can we make problems our friend?


What are problems?

Everyone is going through the river of life having lots of obstacles in the form of problems which makes life as people say “hard”.

So the problems are the barriers which are not willing to let us achieve what we want. May be they are just for their own cause of testing our ability and determination. Don’t you ever wonder, what if we don’t have to face problems? Life would become much easier than now.

In most of the cases people prefer to run away from the problems and ultimately they get trapped in bigger problems. From all the discussion it is clear that we have to face problems one way or another. There is no shortcut to reach at the success point, there may be ways of reaching fast at our target.

What is that fast way one should adopt so that journey of life become easier?

In my opinion that fast way is the way of making problems our friend so that we don’t need to be afraid of it and we get what we want from our life in simplest way. We must become more familiar with our problems and we should solve them as they are our friend.

Everybody has problems, Everybody has bad times. Do we sacrifice all good time because of them?  No we must find happiness in our fight with problems.

We must find our happiness in this beautiful journey of life without running from the problems because life is not a problem to be solved, life is reality to be experienced. Problems are like washing machine ,they twist us, spin us and knock us around…but in the end we come out cleaner, brighter and better than before.

Problems are not stop signs, they are guidelines

Robert H. Schuller


Excuses leads to the place called “Nowhere”

quote-benjamin-franklin-he-that-is-good-for-making-excuses-89007Let us start with an story of a great man who struggle against some unjust
constraints, the struggle to remove the obstacles to the freedom of
all the people of South Africa. Yes I am talking about Nelson Mandela.

For this freedom, Mandela spent twenty-eight years of his life in jail, often in solitary confinement. Imagine what it meant to give up one’s youth for an ideal, to voluntarily give up the pleasure of talking with one’s friends, of playing one’s favourite game (Mandela loved boxing), of wearing one’s favourite clothes, of listening to one’s favourite music, of enjoying the many festivals that are part of one’s life. Imagine giving all these up and choosing instead to be locked up alone in a room, not knowing when one would be released, only because one campaigned for the freedom of one’s people. For freedom Mandela paid a very high personal cost.

Now imagine what if Mandela would have not done all this? what if  he would have decided to live his life with all pleasures of human life that one dream of?

He was just an normal person,any other man could also have done all that things done by Mandela very easily, but no one was interested in giving up all pleasures of life and no one was willing to devote his life for the lives of others.

What really happened is that other people had their own excuses for not giving up his own comfort for the happiness and freedom of others, and they did not wanted to be the part of the great change which was very necessary that time in the history of South Africa.

The people of South Africa might not be free now, if mandela did also make some excuses to be not involved in all that implication.Now refer this example to examine the current state of our mentality.

Yet nothing has changed if you are going in the track of destiny in the vehicle of life having excuses are still your fuel. All excuses offers us is that, we can live life with them but we can’t live an dignified life,and this Dignified life is nothing but an ‘Excuse free life.’

When do we make excuses?

What are the reasons which force us to make excuses?

You all know the answers of above questions but then again we have another excuse ready to stop us from making changes in our habits of making excuses.Sometimes I feel that we are not living in the world of destiny, inspite we are living in the world of excuses.We often use our achivements as an excuse for wasting our time and talent or even some people lost their whole life in this play of excuses.

We’ve all experienced disappointment. You don’t get the promotion you wanted, You fail a test, An important relationship crumbles.

When this happens, you have two choices for how to respond. You can ask yourself, “What could I have done differently?” Or, you can tell yourself, “It wasn’t my fault. There was nothing I could have done.”

If you choose the second option, the science says you’re doomed.

“Tough times don’t last. Tough people do.”If making excuses allows you to externalize your failures, then taking responsibility does just the opposite. Taking responsibility leads to introspection. You study everything that went wrong and you ask yourself, “What could I have done differently” and “What can I do now to fix it?”excuses-763x1024When you ask yourself those questions, you feel like you’re still in control of your destiny. When you’re in control of your destiny, you’re motivated to make it the best one possible. And when you’re motivated, you work better, smarter, and harder and finally you get what you want.